At the end of the day, aren’t we all just trying to “find” balance or “have” a balanced life? But what does that mean exactly? Somewhere along the way, the idea of balance has become mistakenly synonymous with being able to do it all, have it all, and handle it all with a smile on our face.
Between raising children (and many of us homeschooling them too), maintaining our personal relationships, having a career, keeping a clean house, cooking healthy meals, getting our exercise in, volunteering in our community, and finding time to relax – we have come to believe that balance simply means keeping everything from falling apart. So, it’s no wonder that so many women feel completely unbalanced, stressed out, find themselves gaining weight, and feeling totally frustrated.
Is finding balance impossible?
Raise your hand if you have it all together all the time…
New flash: No one does, especially now, and that’s ok! For many women, it likely feels impossible to balance all that life throws at us on a given day on top of our basic responsibilities, not to mention all the extra punches quarantine life has added!
But what if balance isn’t something you have or find? What if, instead, it is something you create – something that is within you?
Sadhguru, an Indian yogi and author, reminds us that, “There is no such thing as work-life balance. It is all life. The balance has to be within you.” Creating balance is a choice, it means that no matter what life throws at you, or what you do or don’t get done, you maintain an inner sense of peace – a calm in the midst of chaos.
Creating a balanced life means making time for the things you have to do, as well as the things you want to do. You have the power to create harmony between your responsibilities and finding time daily to do things that bring you pleasure, personal fulfillment, and rejuvenation.
What does balance look like?
Eating nutritious foods, hydrating, and finding time to do some form of physical exercise on a routine basis creates physical balance in our bodies. Sufficient sleep is also necessary for our bodies to revitalize and feel refreshed.
Making time for friends and family creates balance in our personal lives. Having a support system is important and makes us feel cared for and loved. Balanced relationships are a circle of giving and receiving.
Finding a balance between rest and activity creates emotional, mental, and physical balance. Having sufficient down time allows us to rejuvenate and refocus. Your body, mind, and spirit need time to refuel. Take some time each day to pause and reflect on the things that are important to you. Use this time to reconnect with yourself, or to visualize your dreams and goals. This will create peace for you within your day and remind you who you really are and what is important to you. This means that even if your kids are fighting, the house is a mess, and you can’t remember when you showered last, you know in your heart that everything is going to be ok.
How do I create balance in my life?
Maintaining balance can feel hard but trying to be great at everything and accomplish it all at once is just not possible. Yes, we all have things we have to do. Many of us have to go to work, or school. We also have to eat and sleep. We all have responsibilities. Balance is about marrying the “must dos” with the “need to dos” like building relationships, taking care of our physical and mental wellbeing, and letting the rest go without beating ourselves up about it.
Creating balance takes action.
Balance isn’t passive, it’s not just going to happen for you if you aren’t intentional about it. We often use images of women in relaxing poses to visualize “balance,” and while adding in that practice may be a byproduct of what balance looks like to you, understand that it takes active mental participation to get you there. You need to first believe that you deserve balance, and then set an intentional course to get you there.
Whether you are a stay-at-home mom, or have a career to balance alongside motherhood, you have your hands full! Creating balance is not about perfection, it’s about building everyday habits that honor your body both physically and mentally.
What does a woman who is working to create balance in her life look like?
She chooses her battles
Girl, you can do anything, but you can’t do everything, especially not all at once. Prioritize what’s important and focus your energy on doing one thing at a time. Trust me, no one has it all together all the time (even Sarah, from the office, who gets to the gym each day and only eats organic food from her garden). So, cut yourself some slack.
She is her own biggest fan
Yes, we all have our moments of self-doubt, it’s part of being human, but how we speak to ourselves has a huge impact on what we believe to be true. Start each day by giving yourself a compliment! Girl, you got out of bed today! Sometimes it’s the small victories that give us a push towards bigger ones. Life is full of these small wins; we just have to be present enough to notice them. Celebrating our small successes can give us the motivation we need to keep going.
She puts herself first
You know how on an airplane the instructions tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first, before helping anyone else? It’s the same with life. We can’t be there for others if we aren’t in a good place ourselves. When we take care of ourselves, we are sending messages to our brains that sculpt our self-worth. Taking care of yourself mentally and physically should be non-negotiable.
She welcomes imperfections
Striving for perfection all the time is exhausting, while accepting imperfections can be freeing! Embrace the imperfections in yourself, in others, and the long list of things that are likely to go wrong today. Being imperfect is what makes you unique. Embrace your oddities and learn to laugh at your shortcomings.
She knows when to say “no”
Life is busy and full of conflicting activities, but saying “yes” to everything is impossible and saying “yes” to more than we should can leave us burnt out and lacking the energy to focus on our main priorities. We all have a limited capacity for “doing things.” Saying “yes” to everything can lead to us being unaware of the things you blindly say “no” to consequently, usually those things that feed your soul. This is about being intentional and knowing what matters to you and focusing your “yeses” there.
She embraces her uniqueness and that of others
We each have our own challenges and our own strengths. Comparing yourself to someone else blinds you from embracing what makes you special. Focus on what makes you unique. Do you make people laugh? Are you awesome at karaoke? Do you make a bomb pot roast? Celebrate to the things that make you different. Besides, we guarantee that the person you are comparing yourself to has just as many insecurities as the rest of us. And don’t forget, we focus way more on what people think of us than what they actually do.
She isn’t afraid to ask for support
Balanced women have a good team backing them up. Whether it’s a spouse, a friend, a trusted colleague, or one of our specialists, balanced women are not afraid to rely on others. Together we are stronger. Together we hold each other accountable. Together we can lift each other up when we fall. This thing called life is not meant to be done alone.
If you need help creating balance in your life, we can help.
If you’re struggling to create balance in your life, we are here for you. We invite you to join a community of women who are creating balance and taking control of their health and wellbeing. Through guided support, nutrition, stress management, and natural supplementation, we are helping women balance their hormones naturally.
And when your hormones are in balance you can:
- experience deep, restful sleep.
- have more energy, vitality, and mental clarity.
- shed excess weight that doesn’t belong to you.
- see symptom of PMS and menopause disappear.
- find an inner calm even when life is chaotic.
Because, let’s face it, when you aren’t feeling good it’s hard to balance all that life throws at you. We want to help you create balance from the inside out.
To learn more about our life changing programs, schedule a free consultation today. Together we can help you become balanced and live your best life.